If you’re struggling to stop using porn, or if you are affected by someone else’s porn use, then we’ve put together some resources that might help.
These are suggestions of what’s out there – not necessarily recommendations. If you’d like to share something you’ve found helpful, get in touch.
Filter/Accountability Software
Software that monitors the content of web pages viewed, and sends it to ‘accountability partners’.
Software that monitors the content of web pages and can also block access.
Free filter at router level, meaning all mobile devices can be filtered without software changes. Doesn’t work with some routers though.
Also talk to your broadbnd, mobile provider. Some companies such as talk talk offer free filter services.
Here are the some links on how to set up free parental/filter controls on both apple and microsoft computers
Self-help groups
A group similar to ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’ for people who want to stop compulsive sexual behaviour using the 12 step model.
Sex and love addicts anonymous
As above, generally with more women present. Online and Skype groups available.
A Christian group for any kind of addiction or compulsive behaviour. There are groups in churches around the UK.
Books
In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free from Compulsive Online Sexual Behaviour by Patrick Carnes
Patrick Carnes has written a number of books on the subject of sex addiction, this one focuses on internet problems.
Wired for Intimacy: How pornography hijacks the male brain by William Struthers
Christian Neuroscientist Prof Struthers unpacks in simple layman terms what porn does to the brain.
Every Man’s Battle, by Stephen Arterburn
A Christian approach to staying faithful.
Healing the wounds of sexual addiction, by Mark Laaser
A book by a pastor who was sexually addicted, and who now tries to help others who are.
Dirty Girls Come Clean, by Crystal Renaud (for women)
The story of a woman who was addicted to porn.
Stories/testimonies
Story of a pastor recovering from porn and sex addiction
Story of a sexual abuse survivor who found freedom from porn addiction
A man recovering from sexual addiction
Other links
Mainly covers its own treatment services, but also includes articles and self-tests on porn addiction and similar behaviour.
Offers support to people who abuse children as well as those affected by abuse themselves, with the aim of reducing abusive behaviour against children. Runs a phone line for people who are concerned about their sexual behaviour in relation to children – 0808 1000 900
This directory contains information on many different types of distress including addiction. There is a function to enter a postcode and be given a list of local counsellors from the website’s directory. To be included in the directory all counsellors have provided qualifications and insurance cover or proof of membership with a professional body.
Resources for the partners of people with sexual and pornography problem
Groups
A group for people affected by other people’s compulsive sexual behaviour.
Similar to Al-Anon, a group for people affected by people with compulsive sexual behaviour.
Links
Partners of sex addicts resource centre
